Some Dreams are Better Left Broken
Dreams are the fastest route to Expectations.
In my fight with insomnia, sometimes I win too. However, when I am on the winning side, I am somewhere I have zero control on - my dreams. Sometimes they are vivid and sometimes they are down right stupid. Sometimes I find myself in a distorted past, where my school life and people from present keep bumping into me. I am hopelessly outnumbered and I can't even run away.
But dreams are what you make of them. Some wake up tired after a nightmare, others completely broken. However, there is one dream that surely makes one sad after it ends - a friendship. Friendship is a dream we all experience and yet no one can actually do much when they break.
It does hurt when you find some of your best friends getting married and you getting an update on Facebook. It really does hurt when you have your best friends wishing you on Facebook during your birthday.
But, it really shouldn't hurt you. Really.
You are born to be different. You are born to be loved. Friends grow up, some will leave. The idea is to make sure that your conscience is clear when a relationship ends. Nobody told you to not be harsh on a friend who forgot you on his/her best day. You can be harsh, you can also be rational. That's what is more important. Being rational enables you to find peace when you are desperately looking for it.
Friendships don't take forever to happen as well. Let me tell you something. I had a best friend of 13 years who got married recently. I was hurt when I got his update on Facebook. I didn't call him, didn't blast him anywhere. I merely dropped a message saying what I felt and rest, as they say, was history. I moved on. Yet, somehow, I wasn't able to come out of the shock. Was I over-reacting? May be and may be not. Here's why.
When you have a friendship that old, you really tend to consider him/her as your family. This person was practically one. We had so many treasured moments, from cycle rides back home from school EVERYDAY for 4 years to providing each other with emotional support during and post numerous relationships. So, yes, when this person ignored me, I was terribly hurt. There is nothing wrong with that.
It was like a dream during the entire friendship. But it's better to let it remain broken.
Let's turn the coin now. Just like a good friend ignored me on his best day, a friend bordering stranger invited me to hers! We hadn't really caught up to each other during our post-grad days but our friendship blossomed after the course, on Facebook and then we found we were really cool buddies together. I am not sad anymore that my best friend forgot me, I am happy that I got a new best friend, possibly for life..
A broken dream doesn't matter when the reality you are about to face is far beautiful. That's the true path to discovering happiness now.